If there’s one thing I pride myself on, it’s being a generous and thoughtful guest. I’ve always believed that when someone opens their home to you, it’s a gift – one that deserves gratitude, kindness, and a little extra effort. I’ve heard enough horror stories about overnight guests to know you do not want to be that person. So, here are my tried-and-true tips to ensure you’re invited back time and time again!
1. Arrive with a Thoughtful Gift
It doesn’t need to be extravagant, but it should be thoughtful. I always say: the length of your stay should match the generosity of your gift.
- One night: A lovely bottle of wine, a beautiful candle, or fresh flowers from a local market.
- Two nights: Step it up with a gift card to their favourite restaurant or a curated basket of gourmet treats!
- Longer stays: Consider a gift card to a local spa, a stunning coffee table book, or something tailored to their interests. The goal is to show how much you appreciate their hospitality.
Whatever you do, you don’t send an e-transfer for “groceries” or offer money… I can’t stress this enough: nothing feels less personal or gracious, in fact, it’s a little awkward and bizarre. A thoughtful gift (that doesn’t need to break the bank) always goes further!
2. Offer Help – And Mean It
Your hosts aren’t running a hotel, so pitch in. Help with cooking, set the table, or offer to do the dishes. Even if your offer is declined, it speaks volumes about your character. That small gesture can transform the entire dynamic of your visit!
3. Keep Your Space Tidy
I know firsthand how easy it is to let a guest room become your personal closet. (Believe me, if you’re anything like me, this might take some effort.) But leaving clothes strewn about or toiletries scattered isn’t respectful of your host’s space. Whether your door is open or closed, make your bed, keep things organized, and leave the room as you found it – if not better
4. Be Considerate of Their Routine
Your hosts likely have their own rhythm. Pay attention to cues: if the lights are dimmed or someone mentions an early morning, it might be time to wind down. Keep your phone on silent, avoid loud calls late at night, and be mindful of shared spaces.
5. Strip the Bed and Fold the Linens
Before you leave, one of the kindest things you can do is strip the bed and fold the linens neatly. It’s a simple gesture that spares your host an extra task and shows your thoughtfulness. Little touches like this go a long way.
Don’t Overstay Your Welcome
There’s truth in the old saying: Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days. If you sense it’s time to go, trust that instinct. Leaving on a high note is always better than outstaying your welcome.
7. Follow Up with a Thank-You
A handwritten note is ideal and feels far more personal than a quick text. Mention specific moments you enjoyed or appreciated during your stay. If that’s not possible, at the very least, send a heartfelt message expressing your gratitude.
Being a good guest is about more than just manners – it’s about showing your host you value their time, effort, and generosity. You want them to think, “That was a pleasure. Let’s do it again.” So, be gracious, be generous, and above all, be kind. Trust me, these small gestures go a long way.
And if you’re in town visiting others as well, remember: do not show up at all hours of the night. There is nothing more rude. Your host’s home is not a hotel – respect their space and schedule by keeping reasonable hours!
Happy visiting,
JJH xx
